Over the past few months, I learnt that there is a difference between craving someone and obsessing over them. I mean, I used to be that girl that was just desperate, that girl that wanted love from any guy willing to give it. If I want to be honest with you, I’m in love with love. I love giving it and I love receiving it. I tend to give myself in when someone tells me they love me. We are humans and it is in our nature to crave for a relationship (at least my type of human). When we love someone, we want them to give us all the attention in their world. We all want to be loved and understood. Sometimes when we don’t get what we want, it hurts us so much. The people we want in our life, wants someone else.
I wrote a letter to the 17-year-old me, and I told her that if someone cares about you, they wouldn’t make loving you and giving you affection look like hard work. The truth is that if someone wants you in their life, they will make an effort. If they value you, they will show it. They won’t make you feel unwanted. My beloved reader, if someone ever makes you feel unwanted, walk away.
I hate that one-sided love bullshit. If someone isn’t giving you love why give them love? One day, you are going to find love that will heal you, love that will make you forget the hurt. True love needs effort not suffering. There’s is a difference between putting in effort and staying in a toxic relationship because you think you’ve invested a lot of time and energy.
Whenever I ‘think’ I love someone, I would see a million reason to leave that relationship but then stay for the fact that I love them. Lol. The truth is that it is very easy to give advice when you are not in the situation. I’m advising you to leave that toxic relationship, but the truth is that when I was in that situation, I became deaf to people’s advice.
Stop feeling bad for wanting love, for craving someone, for giving all you have to keep that relationship. When you meet the right person, you won’t overthink things like this. The right person will make love look like the best feeling in the world.
Fall in love if you want to, at the end of everything, you will only regret the lips you didn’t kiss, and the hearts you didn’t let yourself to be intertwined with. Anyone who makes you feel like you aren’t good enough is simply not the right one.
My problem with falling in love is that I don’t wanna get hurt. I don’t want to waste my time. I don’t want to give the wrong person my beautiful heart. Life is too short to overthink love every goddamn minute. Live a stress-free life and see you in my next post.